04.3.2024 Melanie Trindade
Excuses, excuses. Preparing for college is a time-consuming task. Evidenced by the many online and other forms of checklists that have been published for this very purpose. I have prepared a different list. A list of excuses heard in my own household that I thought might be helpful to share so you will be armed and ready for counterpoint response.
Not to say the recommended logic below will sway or convince every child, but as a parent, it can’t hurt to give it a try.
1. “I don’t know what I want to go to school for….”
All the more reason to tour. Start local, so it is not a big investment in time. Visit a public, private, and technical school. Tour guides and admissions officers will do a great job explaining the type of learning environment modeled on their campus, classroom sizes, majors, and more. The process of elimination approach of what you definitely don’t like may get you to some answers or preferences much faster. Many schools don’t require you to select a major until the spring of your second year, so there is time before you need to get specific.
2. “My friend’s sister visited there and hated it….”
This is the easiest one to counterpoint, in my opinion. What type of movies does she like? What is her favorite sport? What does she want to do for a career? Well, look at that: all are different from what you like, and nothing could be truer of a college experience for each individual student. So, everyone really needs to see for themselves, it is the only way to know what is a good fit for you.
3. “I watched the video on their site, I’m good….”
Let’s daydream for a minute and imagine Mom is giving you the money to pick out any high-cost, performance sports car you like. Would you watch the video on the website and send the car dealer a check before you pick it up? I certainly hope not! You want to drive it and see all the features and options for yourself. College is an even bigger investment in both time and money, so taking a test drive around campus is critical.
4. “I am only interested in one school……”
Did you know you liked soccer more than baseball until you played both? Did you know that cookie and cream flavor was your one and only favorite flavor of ice cream before you tried several others? Don’t limit your choices. Also, and unfortunately, what if this “one and only school” is not interested in you? Be sure to see the acceptance rate percentage before putting all your hopes into this one and only school. Many will say you should visit anywhere from 4 to 8 schools and decide on preferably 5 or 6. Don’t forget, two reach, two target schools, and one or two safety.
5. My all-time favorite. "Why start now, we have plenty of time…"
This is by far the hardest argument to overcome because, as a teenager's perception is that time is abundantly available, especially if your little darling is a natural-born procrastinator. But try the following: Does it seem like you were in middle school just yesterday? Seems that way to me. Has one of your sisters or brothers already gone to college and already returned? How fast did that go by? The point is that time passes quickly. Why start now? Well, for one, although it may seem like you have two years before going to college, the time you have to visit campuses is limited. You have a few weeks of school vacation, summer vacation, and maybe some weekends, depending on the school’s scheduling of tours. If you are only touring locally, visiting 3 to 5 schools is very doable in this time frame. However, double the time and effort if you are traveling out of state, driving, or even flying. So, let’s get started ASAP!
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